Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Do Your Friends Know the Real You?

What would the world be without friends? Where would Eeyore be without Pooh or Tigger without Rabbit?

Over the past week or two I have been going through some pretty tough times. Probably some of the toughest and most trying times I have gone through as a mother in a long time. I was at a loss for words and didn't know where to turn.

Photo courtesy of Disney

Then I read an article written by a friend and realized I was not the only one. I was not the only one putting on a happy face and holding back the tears. She compared it to emotional vomiting, you know when you hold it in for so long that the tears just pour out ... kinda like vomit. After reading this article I called a good friend to talk, to be honest, to tell her what I was going through.

The support I got was amazing. Later that night I got a text from another friend that said 'You are a good person and good things happen to good people'. How could I have let myself get so down and not realize that I had friends to reach out to?

These people didn't judge me. They didn't make me feel bad. If anything, they made me feel real.

When you get to the point where you think you will scream if one more person says 'Everything will work out', ask yourself this question ... Am I being honest with myself, with my friends?

You may surprise yourself with the answer.

Because of the amazing support of my friends and the article that touched my core, I began to think positive about what I was going through. I thought about how I could take this bad situation and turn it around. I was no longer clouded by the emotions that were taking me over. These positive thoughts came back ten-fold and my friends really stepped up to the plate. Not in ways I was expecting, but in ways that made me stop doubting myself.

Thanks to my friends, I made it through one of the toughest times. I don't want to know what the world would be like without friends ... especially my friends. My friends are the best and I hope that they all know I will always be here for them, just as they were there for me last week.

So to my Tigger, Pooh, and Rabbit ... Thank you.


  1. You are a strong woman and don't ever forget it. :) Keep smiling. xoxo

  2. I'm a new follower. What a great post. It does seen like we out on the happy face, even to our friends. We can't internalize everything, it's not healthy. Thank God for friends that lift us up, and let us lean on them.

  3. Welcome Cari. You are correct, internalizing everything is not healthy. Part of the reason behind posting this was to help me be more open and honest with myself. I am not perfect and I have bad days just like everyone else. The last thing I want my readers to think is that Life with Dylan is always happy and bubbly ... be cause it's not. That's not reality.

  4. Great post, and you're right, you need people to lean on, to be yourself with when times get tough.