Friday, November 25, 2011

It's OK to Say Stop

What does it take for a person to say enough is enough? How many sleepless nights and anxiety attacks does it take before one realizes that we are, in fact, only human?

Personally, I don’t have that answer because it is different for everyone. However, the warning signs are there and we must recognize them. For those people like me, with type A personalities - you know who you are - the ones who must have everything in order, be in control, and don’t have the word NO in their vocabulary – it takes drastic measures. I thrive on stress and sleepless nights. To just sit and relax … why this thought is absurd!

I have 10 balls in the air and I am quite good at juggling them. Take one of those balls away and I go into a panic. Well, that is until recently. When I got down to only 7 balls in the air, I realized that I was even better at keeping them up. I could throw them higher – and maybe even do a little trick.

I found the anxiety attacks were less frequent. The sleepless nights - not so much. My son actually enjoyed talking to me and I enjoyed spending time with him. I had time to just sit and watch a movie or read a magazine. This gave me a wonderful idea.

What if I tried to only juggle 5 balls at once?

Half the amount I was accustomed to, but if I could juggle 7 balls and have time for a trick, imagine what I could with only 5? 

Slowly, I began to let some things go

… and you know what?

I was even better than before!

My life is better. I am happier. I sleep at night. Anxiety attacks are pretty much a thing of the past. I have time to “Stop and smell the roses” (yes, it’s a cliché, but you know it’s true)

Bottom line is I learned to say Stop and you can too.

Stop trying to do everything. Stop trying to outdo your friends and co-workers. Nobody likes a name-dropper or a person who says I do it all. Find what you love and hone in on those talents.

For example, if you like to bake and want to start a baking business, then bake. Just don’t bake pies, cakes, cookies, cupcakes, tarts, and anything you think others will like. Find the one you like most and perfect it. Bake the perfect cookies and the world will flock to buy them.

Why do everything just to be average when you can do one or two things and be AMAZING!

If you are reading this and think I am talking about you, you may be right. However, I had nobody in mind when I wrote this except myself. It took me almost 2 years to realize it was OK to say Stop … and if reading this makes you think about yourself then maybe it’s time you said Stop too. 


  1. My current favorite quote is "You can do anything, but not everything." I even have it on my blog header right now. It's been proven time and time again that the more you try to do, the more chance it all has for ending up half-assed. But if you can pinpoint a few things you're REALLY great at and excel at those, well then you're bringing that much more satisfaction to yourself and to the world. Great job for getting there, Michelle :)

  2. Thank you Roxanne. It's been a long time coming, but feels great to finally be here. I'm counting on you to help me if I start saying GO again! :)